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[ginormous]

Note to sister:

You know how you have that best friend? And she has a hot 28 year old sister? The one I have wanted for years now, but won't date me because she perceives me as immature and childish and unmanly? And she kind of makes me hate myself because she serves as a reminder of all of my failures? Please DO NOT keep me up to date with her sexual encounters. Thank you.

[Daemon9623]

Held hands with a girl at work. She's a lesbian, but STILL!

I was mistaken for a lesbian at work.

[Tackle]

ginormous post about his dating experiences makes me wanna invent a device that lets you pause the current date, like, mid-talking

then you could chat with friends about the situation and come up with hilarious ways to twist the date.
for example the girl that TALKED REALLY LOUD - start whispering to her! ok maybe not so hilarious, but still.
when I'm in that situation, I feel an urge to talk with others about it. you know the feeling - like when you're zoning out from the date and start to think of it as a bad movie, thinking "wow she just wont stop talking about the most uninteresting things ever". had that happens some weeks ago.

[raubhimself]

i am not actively pursuing women right now.
but posts like this make me red with rage at these girls. i feel like the online thing is giving girls more gall than ever before. and what ends up happening is they become insanely choosy about small details. its like they think the path to happiness is to find a man who has the biggest list of superficial qualities. and these online tools are giving them the means to chew up men in record-breaking quantities. i think most of these ventures are going to turn up sour in the long run for these women and they are going to wish they gave a lot of these guys more of a chance.

Bitches be bitches with or without online dating. Without it though, dudes like me wouldn't even get a foot in the door with some chicks. If you manage to get a date with a hot chick who you get the feeling is not digging being seen with you for superficial reasons, you can just stand up and say "HAHA I MADE YOU GO ON A DATE WITH AN UGGO WHOM YOU WOULD RATHER NOT BE SEEN WITH!" It's diabolical.

On the other side of the coin though, I have been the asshole after all but one of the dates I've had due to the Innernets.

[Moldilox]

Man, this is progressing more quickly than I thought it would. She was out in NYC all yesterday so I assumed I wouldn't see her until this week, but she got a hold of me when she came back to Hoboken last night, came to a bar by my friend's apt and met a lot of my good friends (who gave their highly valued seal of approval), and then I went back to her place and stayed over. I dig this girl.

Too bad I'm leaving Wednesday to go home for the holidays. I'll see her before then for sure, but then not again until after... MAG!

[darmock]

i am not actively pursuing women right now.
but posts like this make me red with rage at these girls. i feel like the online thing is giving girls more gall than ever before. and what ends up happening is they become insanely choosy about small details. its like they think the path to happiness is to find a man who has the biggest list of superficial qualities. and these online tools are giving them the means to chew up men in record-breaking quantities. i think most of these ventures are going to turn up sour in the long run for these women and they are going to wish they gave a lot of these guys more of a chance.

Bitches be bitches with or without online dating. Without it though, dudes like me wouldn't even get a foot in the door with some chicks. If you manage to get a date with a hot chick who you get the feeling is not digging being seen with you for superficial reasons, you can just stand up and say "HAHA I MADE YOU GO ON A DATE WITH AN UGGO WHOM YOU WOULD RATHER NOT BE SEEN WITH!" It's diabolical.

On the other side of the coin though, I have been the asshole after all but one of the dates I've had due to the Innernets.

I really hate the online dating thing. I get messaged by guys I have absolutely no interest in. No common ground and no attraction to. It's not that I would be embarrassed to be seen in public with them, but if there's absolutely no initial attraction, I don't feel there's any point in pursuing something. I remember in the past being somewhat embarrassed that I was so much shorter than my ex, and felt bad more for him than me because I assumed, foolishly, that people really thought negatively about that. Then I realized people don't care and if they do fuck 'em. Not that I didn't care about my ex's feelings, but caring what other people think is silly and unproductive, and your happiness is not found from outside sources.

What also annoys me is the ones I message, much like you guys with the ladies, who are attractive to me and may have at least a few things in common, don't always message back or end up being solely interested in a one time thing. And while I'm a little on the fence about stuff, I think something with a tad more substance might work a little better for me.

In conclusion and IMHO dating, especially online dating, sucks (:

[GlamGoreMuffin]

i am not actively pursuing women right now.
but posts like this make me red with rage at these girls. i feel like the online thing is giving girls more gall than ever before. and what ends up happening is they become insanely choosy about small details. its like they think the path to happiness is to find a man who has the biggest list of superficial qualities. and these online tools are giving them the means to chew up men in record-breaking quantities. i think most of these ventures are going to turn up sour in the long run for these women and they are going to wish they gave a lot of these guys more of a chance.

Bitches be bitches with or without online dating. Without it though, dudes like me wouldn't even get a foot in the door with some chicks. If you manage to get a date with a hot chick who you get the feeling is not digging being seen with you for superficial reasons, you can just stand up and say "HAHA I MADE YOU GO ON A DATE WITH AN UGGO WHOM YOU WOULD RATHER NOT BE SEEN WITH!" It's diabolical.

On the other side of the coin though, I have been the asshole after all but one of the dates I've had due to the Innernets.

I really hate the online dating thing. I get messaged by guys I have absolutely no interest in. No common ground and no attraction to. It's not that I would be embarrassed to be seen in public with them, but if there's absolutely no initial attraction, I don't feel there's any point in pursuing something. I remember in the past being somewhat embarrassed that I was so much shorter than my ex, and felt bad more for him than me because I assumed, foolishly, that people really thought negatively about that. Then I realized people don't care and if they do fuck 'em. Not that I didn't care about my ex's feelings, but caring what other people think is silly and unproductive, and your happiness is not found from outside sources.

What also annoys me is the ones I message, much like you guys with the ladies, who are attractive to me and may have at least a few things in common, don't always message back or end up being solely interested in a one time thing. And while I'm a little on the fence about stuff, I think something with a tad more substance might work a little better for me.

In conclusion and IMHO dating, especially online dating, sucks (:

I agree with pretty much all of this

[raubhimself]

If you enter the online dating pool you are greatly increasing the amount of possible people to connect with. You can't expect everyone in this new pool to be great. The likeliest scenario is that you find an equal number of decent people both online and offline. And I'm just talking people that you find suitable, not people that also find you suitable. After all, online dating isn't really any different than non-online dating. The only difference is that you get to screen people before you meet them and you can connect a bit before you meet them if you wish. If a creepy dude messages you, feel free to ignore. If a creepy dude is hanging on you at a bar, it's not quite so easy. Being on the internet makes it much easier for the creepazoids to be outlandishly creepy to more girls so it seems like they are in greater volume online, but those guys still exist in the real world. Luckily though they take themselves out of the game by being douchy online, and you will never have to date them to find out that they are in fact turds.

Does online dating suck? Yes. Does offline dating suck? Yes. Dating sucks. But if I had sworn off online dating over the past year or so because of all the headaches it can cause, I would have had zero dates instead of five.

[cetera]

i just got this creepy fetish to go on some bad dates on purpose just for the funny stories

but thats waaaay too dangerous, right?

[GlamGoreMuffin]

i just got this creepy fetish to go on some bad dates on purpose just for the funny stories

but thats waaaay too dangerous, right?

i'm not even going to type what i'm thinking right now...

[cetera]

but thou must

[thebeautyofgrind]

my ex tried to IM me today asking how I was. I told her, "shitty." When she asked "why's that?" I told her, "why not?"

Instead of blowing up and saying, "don't u get it yet? i do not wanna talk to you, let alone see you ever again for the rest of my life!!" I took the road less traveled and just gave the cold shoulder.

Ironically, I was talking to her brother's friend the other day about that whole relationSHIT. She told me, "I can see why it's hard for you to date after that train wreck." She's absolutely right, too.

Relationships are hard and dating is a pain in the ass.

[depression]

[Wizwars]

Had a Disneyland date last night. New girl. Completely adorable, sweet, and a lot of fun to be around. I think we hit it off really well. I even tested the waters a bit by throwing quite a bit of my bullshit issues out there and none of it scared her off (yeah probably not the best idea but after nothing but shitty experiences I figured that if shit is going to head south it might as well happen sooner than later). We ended up at the Dennys by my house and even after we finished eating we just sat there talking and laughing for a good hour. Might go out again on my birthday next week. I really like her.

[Tackle]

Just out of curiosity - what does in this case merit bullshit issues?

[Wizwars]

Mainly that I'm still good friends with my ex and we still live in the same house, and I'm on anti-depressants because I have severe panic attacks and social anxiety. Oh, and not having a job (fuck you Kirk, I'm looking, and you don't know what woman feels like, so suck it)