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[arise_shine]

Cheating sucks. Some can deal with it, some can't. If you can't, then don't.

[Wizwars]

Tomorrow I've got a second date with a girl I'm really diggin'.

I guess the biggest difference with this girl as compared to my other recent dating situations is that we actually have common interests. She's an artist, plays guitar, we like a lot of the same music...we were once randomly talking about old video games and she mentioned Super Mario 3 as being her favorite game, and then asked me if I'd ever seen one of her favorite childhood movies, "The Wizard"...drool. She's also a fan of bad 80s horror movies and continuously surprises me with her knowledge of titles that I figured no one else had any fucking clue about. Especially previous girls I've dated. And to top it off, she's fucking cuuuuuuuuuuuuute...

Our first date was my "usual", Disneyland. I don't even know why, I've slowly realized that it's a terrible place for a first date. The only talking you do is while waiting in line for rides, and then it's awkward because you're crammed up against other people. And as expected, our date was awkward until we had a chance to just sit down and talk. So that'll be the deal tomorrow, just getting something to eat and getting to know each other more. I am both excited and nervous. Sigh.

[EBattousai]

Isn't Disneyland pretty expensive? Maybe I have no idea because I've only been there once. Seems like a horrible place for a date, like you said.

[Wizwars]

A lot of people in SoCal have annual passes to Disneyland because it's fairly cheap with monthly payments (depending on the pass you have, it can be as low as $9 a month). To buy a ticket for a day is like $80, so yeah, fucking expensive. But if you're a Disney fan and you live down here, it's actually a really cheap form of entertainment up front. And I mean it's a fun place for a date but it's just difficult to have real conversation.

Second date went really well, ended up having a three hour lunch in which there was very little pause in the flow of conversation. We have both admitted to being fond of each other and will be going out again next week.

[EBattousai]

Okay, makes sense. $9 a month is cheaper than an MMO addiction, I mean subscription. As long as you don't have to pay $80 to get the girl to go with you

I have been in the mood for female company lately. If I get one of these school tech jobs I'm applying to, my parents will help me with a car, which means better opportunities for wemon (is this how we're spelling it now? weener? jacki?) OKCupid did not work, so it will have to be active, face-to-face pursuits.

[Akumu]

Tomorrow I've got a second date with a girl I'm really diggin'.

I guess the biggest difference with this girl as compared to my other recent dating situations is that we actually have common interests. She's an artist, plays guitar, we like a lot of the same music...we were once randomly talking about old video games and she mentioned Super Mario 3 as being her favorite game, and then asked me if I'd ever seen one of her favorite childhood movies, "The Wizard"...drool. She's also a fan of bad 80s horror movies and continuously surprises me with her knowledge of titles that I figured no one else had any fucking clue about. Especially previous girls I've dated. And to top it off, she's fucking cuuuuuuuuuuuuute...

Our first date was my "usual", Disneyland. I don't even know why, I've slowly realized that it's a terrible place for a first date. The only talking you do is while waiting in line for rides, and then it's awkward because you're crammed up against other people. And as expected, our date was awkward until we had a chance to just sit down and talk. So that'll be the deal tomorrow, just getting something to eat and getting to know each other more. I am both excited and nervous. Sigh.

Good for you buddy. Sounds like you turned the tables and managed to change...

Officially has girlfriend.
I'm trying a new thing - not over thinking shit, and just going with it. Breaking the Wiz cycle. She's awesome, adorable, sweet, we get along great (she's really shy but especially today she opened up a lot).
I don't think I'm going to chronicle this one in this thread either. Just take it as it comes.

Just got back from meeting the girl I mentioned a few posts back. She's nice, very laid back and easy going, and cute. And she's into roller derby for fucks sake, how badass is that?

Had a Disneyland date last night. New girl. Completely adorable, sweet, and a lot of fun to be around. I think we hit it off really well. I even tested the waters a bit by throwing quite a bit of my bullshit issues out there and none of it scared her off (yeah probably not the best idea but after nothing but shitty experiences I figured that if shit is going to head south it might as well happen sooner than later). We ended up at the Dennys by my house and even after we finished eating we just sat there talking and laughing for a good hour. Might go out again on my birthday next week. I really like her.

Oh. oh.....

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Don't worry, I'm a alcoholic that yells at women so it's all with love

[Wizwars]

Hahaha...my dating history sucks but not all of the bad experiences are my fault. Granted I'm indecisive and often make stupid choices, but a lot of that came from being desperate for a relationship. It's shitty to say but every girl I've contacted first and eventually gone out with from OKC, my mindset in contacting them was "Well, I could probably tolerate this person enough to date them, I'll go ahead and write them". They were all good looking (to me), but there was never anything about their personality or interests that really jumped out at me and made me think "I really want to get to know this particular person". And that's what has been most different with this current situation.

But anyway, on a less "make fun of Wizwars note"...I told her last night via text message that I want to see where things go and I'm not interested in talking to anyone else unless this completely crashes and burns. This conversation ended with both of us deactivating our OKC profiles We also shall be seeing each other again sometime in the next few days.

[Daemon9623]

My GIRL is awesome, and I love her to death, then back to life for zombie love.

[the Wozz]

MARRIED GUYS OUTTA THIS THREAD

[TETSUOOOO!!!]

I think I'm done with the pursuit of intimate relationships. Too vexing. And in hindsight, my last relationship really gave me a more mature perspective with my relationship and interaction with the world, and physical intimacy need not apply. Perhaps it's a denial of a natural instinct and perhaps it is foolish, but this world is mostly synthetic anyways.

Anyways, I hope you guys in pursuit of a relationship (directed mostly at Kevin) find a significant other. You have one less competitor, males out there.

*salute*

[Sam]

MARRIED GUYS OUTTA THIS THREAD

No way. Being married doesn't mean that we stop having good stories. In fact, it's only the beginning. Plus, we are here to dispense our wisdom that comes from victory.

Sam, the Neon Orange Knight

[the Wozz]

FINE.

[Corax]

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After 2 and a half years of not being in a relationship (after my high school crush relationship ended when I was 16), of not dating anyone or even seriously flirting with anyone, I had a girl stay over at my place this Friday.





I'm like, overwhelmed though. Everything was so perfect... there's this adorable first year cinema student in the lounge that's really easy to talk to, and Thursday I asked if she wanted to watch a film at the festival that night. So we went and talked after and that was that, it seemed. I thought I'd been bro'd, which would have been fine but I just had no idea what she was thinking if anything. Then Friday evening, I was in the cinema office and she dropped by. She was going to meet a friend but the friend wasn't there yet, so we talked. After awhile her friend let her know that they actually should just meet right at the place they were going to go to, so we got to talk some more. When it was time for her to go, she asked if I was heading out that way. I wasn't planning on it, but the metro station she'd transfer at was the one I get off of to go home so I decided that at the very least I'd be home sooner if nothing happened. We said goodbye in the station (I still had no idea whether she was interested in me or not) and when I was almost home (I'm barely 5 minutes away from the station) I got a text: someone had a stroke on the train and it wasn't going to move for 20 minutes, she said it was a sign that she really doesn't need to go up to see that friend and asked if I was still around.

Perfect romantic comedy scenario right there. We met up again, walked around, and she asked if I wanted to rent a movie. We rented a Coppola film and went back to my apartment(!!). It was a great time and by the end of the film there was only one possible conclusion... we kissed, which I haven't even come close to doing in 2 and a half years. It was pretty awesome.

From there things moved really fast though. Really fast. She stayed over and we didn't even leave the apartment until 6pm the next day. But like... I'm emotionally achey right now.

She had explained that at the moment she wouldn't be able to have a boyfriend or anything. Just not emotionally at that point, after a bad breakup awhile ago... she explained that she still "dates" and stuff but nothing ever serious. That night, she basically said that given where she's at I shouldn't hold out for anything big to develop. I said I was okay with that but really... even though I haven't been in the market for a girlfriend or anything, it started to hurt me. I was trying so hard to open up that kind of intimacy again and but she said things like that. Keeping her guard up. And she asked that I not tell anyone in the film program about this (because gossip spreads like freaking wildfire in smart fine arts programs, it's ridiculous. So I completely agree, but at the same time... some of my best friends are here and it's like I can't talk to them about something that's affecting me a lot) But she started to warm up. By the end of the day, even if she didn't say anything, I definitely felt her warm up. And when I went back over to her neighbourhood to see her off she was touching my hands in a pretty unmistakble way.


But I just want to curl up and not feel bad. I had like, the first exciting crush I've had in this city when I met her but then everything moved so fast and now I feel almost empty, instead of that magic. It's really bothering me. I just wished things had moved slower. With these kind of things it seems to only work for me to build up intimacy and trust first, and that takes more time than one night, I found out. The day after, with all the lack of sleep and everything that happened, I was overwhelmed. I couldn't quite... feel. My brain was just trying to process everything and wasn't doing the best job of it. Now, I feel much more capable since I slept well, but in my head... I'm all over the place. Thinking about everything constantly and this dull ache in my chest. I feel emasculated, being overwhelmed like this.

I'm meeting her tomorrow for tea. For all of my one sided ranting, if I hadn't thought she was really cool nothing would have happened in the first place. I sent her the screenplay I'm working on and tomorrow we're meeting to go over her thoughts. Basically, I've been telling myself to just wait until tomorrow to see how things pan out. If we can take a step back, relax and slowly get back into things, great, if not... well, I dunno...




Thanks for listening, Shizz... I just feel like we were onto something, and then jumped through the stairwell instead of taking our time down the steps. And I'm, at the very least, feeling the pain from the fall.

[travis]

She had explained that at the moment she wouldn't be able to have a boyfriend or anything. Just not emotionally at that point, after a bad breakup awhile ago... she explained that she still "dates" and stuff but nothing ever serious.

Take zero shit where this is concerned. You probably already know this in the back of your head, but that's a perfect red flag that she's either got some issues, she's gonna give you trouble later on, she's not the kind of chick you're gonna want to be with, or some combination of the above. I know it's tough to put your foot down in this kind of scenario - trust me, you say you were single for two and a half years, I was single for six, I know the feeling (especially considering just last April I was in a very similar situation to what you described).

And when I say "put your foot down", I'm not telling you to call her first thing tomorrow morning and be a dick to her, or anything like that. You say you're gonna have tea with and talk to her soon, great! Go with the flow, keep talking to her, see where it goes. Hell, I could be way off the map, maybe she's a great chick for you! But just keep your eyes open for things that might seem a little "off", and definitely go with your gut. I know you've been single for awhile and I know it seems like things might have been so perfect for a minute and you want that to continue...but if she keeps giving you the shaft, don't kid yourself. Be very aware of what you want, and if she won't reciprocate, don't prolong it - rip that bandage off quick.

One way or the other - while you may indeed be emotionally achy for a time - it'll be a learning experience. Even if it just ends after that one night stand, it's another experience under your belt (and hey, on a somewhat less mature but somewhat serious note - screw it dude, you got some action...gotta fit that in there at least a few times while you're young). I'm sure you'll make the right choice in the end. Gimmie a call if you need bro, don't be a stranger.

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EDIT: good god, that last paragraph was so full of unintended puns, I don't believe myself

[DeathMask]

Sweet story.

I think you should at least try and go for it dude, if not that many opportunities come by, you may as well. I've been out of dating/anything meaningful for over 2 and a half years now, so all I can say is take the chance since it's there.