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[the Wozz]

best use of a stupid meme. bravo to whoever made this.

[Bonkers]

[M-H]

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[MichaelTheCrow]

Today I finally gave in to mums constant pestering of me to download the original Duke Nukem for Dad, saw the download history and noticed a suspicious file, so I looked up browser history and saw a site saying "YOU HAVE A VIRUS!", it was obviously the install file to a malicious fake firewall(though I can't see any evidence it had been installed). Turns out he's discovered internet porn and has been doing so for the past year. I assumed my parents had been happily married for the past 25 years, I had to lie to mum because if she found out...all hell would break loose, this is the kind of thing that could potentially destroy their marriage if taken to a large enough scale as other problems will be brought to the surface.

I feel sick...

[Nario]

Hang in there, buddy.

[Eric Dude]

Today I finally gave in to mums constant pestering of me to download the original Duke Nukem for Dad, saw the download history and noticed a suspicious file, so I looked up browser history and saw a site saying "YOU HAVE A VIRUS!", it was obviously the install file to a malicious fake firewall(though I can't see any evidence it had been installed). Turns out he's discovered internet porn and has been doing so for the past year. I assumed my parents had been happily married for the past 25 years, I had to lie to mum because if she found out...all hell would break loose, this is the kind of thing that could potentially destroy their marriage if taken to a large enough scale as other problems will be brought to the surface.

I feel sick...

Is looking at porn absolutely the sign of an unhappy marriage?

Somebody besides Sam answer!

I certainly understand not telling your mom about the porn though. I mean, come on.

[weener]

Yeah, I don't think it necessarily means either of them is unhappy. I think it's just something that ~95% of guys just do - some couples even do it together. But like Eric said, I can understand not telling your mom.

[Bonkers]

OPERATION ODESSA

NEVER FORGET

*SALUTES*

[MichaelTheCrow]

Today I finally gave in to mums constant pestering of me to download the original Duke Nukem for Dad, saw the download history and noticed a suspicious file, so I looked up browser history and saw a site saying "YOU HAVE A VIRUS!", it was obviously the install file to a malicious fake firewall(though I can't see any evidence it had been installed). Turns out he's discovered internet porn and has been doing so for the past year. I assumed my parents had been happily married for the past 25 years, I had to lie to mum because if she found out...all hell would break loose, this is the kind of thing that could potentially destroy their marriage if taken to a large enough scale as other problems will be brought to the surface.

I feel sick...

Is looking at porn absolutely the sign of an unhappy marriage?

Somebody besides Sam answer!

I certainly understand not telling your mom about the porn though. I mean, come on.

I do see why people watch and look up porn, and if it's something a married couple are open about then sure, why not? But if one or the other is not okay about it, it shouldn't be done if it's going to be taken the wrong way AND in the worst way possible, mum will then see it as either he doesn't love her anymore or just plain pissed he's fantasising about other women.

Though I come from a Christian family(that explains a lot), both parents had a strong anti-porn stance, though the shock to my mother would be great enough to start other things too, and then EVERYTHING they can find that's going wrong with their marriage will just be blown out of proportion. I now see Dad as a hypocrite, and I KNOW he knows he shouldn't be looking anything up that would go against his vows of honesty etc. Keeping from someone is just as bad as lying. Also if I told mum, Dad CAN get illogical, then become abusive and blind with rage, and this sort of thing could land me a trip to the hospital if he discovers I found him out.

I can only really talk to my brother about it as another family member, though I'm certain none of us would know what to do.

[Bonkers]

I guess pretending to ignore it until it comes out on it's own is something you COULD do.. but I don't know if that's the right thing to do or if it's a comfortable thing to do.

[Nario]

I think it's just something that ~95% of guys just do

Yeah, 95% sounds about right.

I do see why people watch and look up porn, and if it's something a married couple are open about then sure, why not? But if one or the other is not okay about it, it shouldn't be done if it's going to be taken the wrong way AND in the worst way possible, mum will then see it as either he doesn't love her anymore or just plain pissed he's fantasising about other women.

I share your pain, Michael. I once caught my dad looking at porn at 5 AM (fully-clothed shoddy-framerate webcam video, to be precise), but I pretended I didn't see it. I wasn't surprised at what I saw, because I assumed that almost every man does it, but my "married for 23 years" parents were divorced within a year after that, with my mom claiming "I'm not a prostitute", which made me wonder if she just didn't like having sex (which confused me, because I thought she would've secretly liked it). Well, the plot thickens, because just two months ago I went to her shabby apartment and found porn on her computer while fixing it for her. That's just great, so both of my parents liked porn, didn't share it with each other, and my mom actually did secretly like it after all. This is what they get for not being honest with each other, and the 5-person family got punched in the gut because of it.

Like you, I haven't told either of my parents about this. It's probably for the best, considering my parents are already divorced and my mom won't listen to a single criticism I make, but you can still do something about this. Talk with your brother about this, and see what he thinks about this. I don't think confronting either of your parents could help out the situation--you obviously know them better than I do, and if you think they could both become illogical upon confrontation, then it's probably best to lay low for now.

Keep us posted, Michael. I don't want your parents to end up like mine.

[Eric Dude]

I guess pretending to ignore it until it comes out on it's own is something you COULD do.. but I don't know if that's the right thing to do

I would say this is without a doubt the right thing to do. I think this goes beyond the scope of what a child should be expected to involve himself in as concerns his parents' marriage.

The vibe I'm kind of getting from you is that there are already problems with their marriage. They're gonna need to work those out, porn or no porn, and I really don't think it's a good idea for you to put yourself in the middle of it. Especially if you fear physical violence from your dad (which also sets off more alarm bells for me, jeez man that's rough).

Let the sleeping dog lie; they're adults who are responsible for their own marriage, and probably nothing good will come of butting in.

[WilliamTheBard]

Today I finally gave in to mums constant pestering of me to download the original Duke Nukem for Dad, saw the download history and noticed a suspicious file, so I looked up browser history and saw a site saying "YOU HAVE A VIRUS!", it was obviously the install file to a malicious fake firewall(though I can't see any evidence it had been installed). Turns out he's discovered internet porn and has been doing so for the past year. I assumed my parents had been happily married for the past 25 years, I had to lie to mum because if she found out...all hell would break loose, this is the kind of thing that could potentially destroy their marriage if taken to a large enough scale as other problems will be brought to the surface.

I feel sick...

Is looking at porn absolutely the sign of an unhappy marriage?

Somebody besides Sam answer!

I certainly understand not telling your mom about the porn though. I mean, come on.

I do see why people watch and look up porn, and if it's something a married couple are open about then sure, why not? But if one or the other is not okay about it, it shouldn't be done if it's going to be taken the wrong way AND in the worst way possible, mum will then see it as either he doesn't love her anymore or just plain pissed he's fantasising about other women.

Though I come from a Christian family(that explains a lot), both parents had a strong anti-porn stance, though the shock to my mother would be great enough to start other things too, and then EVERYTHING they can find that's going wrong with their marriage will just be blown out of proportion. I now see Dad as a hypocrite, and I KNOW he knows he shouldn't be looking anything up that would go against his vows of honesty etc. Keeping from someone is just as bad as lying. Also if I told mum, Dad CAN get illogical, then become abusive and blind with rage, and this sort of thing could land me a trip to the hospital if he discovers I found him out.

I can only really talk to my brother about it as another family member, though I'm certain none of us would know what to do.

My opinion would be that you do nothing, it's an issue strictly between your parents. They're both adults, they're in a relationship, the intimate details of which are their own affair. It's certainly understandable that you feel weird about it, but watching porn and masturbating in and of itself isn't sick or perverse and frankly is pretty natural. Your parents have been together (I assume) for a long time and your dad might just need some external stimulus. I'm not trying to gross you out or anything, but he's a guy and he has needs. There just doesn't seem to be much, if any, benefit to you bringing it up with anyone else. If you DO decide to bring it up with him, you might want to tell your dad "to be more careful with what you're downloading" or something. This might be a discrete and less embarrassing way of explaining to him that you found it and it might make him rethink his habits. That's what makes sense to me though, you certainly understand your family dynamic better than anyone else here.

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