jeeez, i don't know if i could handle reading this entire thread lol
stay strong, treat yourself to a baby seal here and there, and make sure to stay hydrated. dealing with a partner with mental issues while you yourself also are going through problems is exhausting and really wears you both down so alyways try to keep the overall situational status in mind when thinking about/ dealing with problem flare-ups
I've slowly been reading through this thread since I joined the forum; it's sad that so many people have to struggle with this but it's awesome that there seems to be a supportive community here and a place to share stories and experiences.
I've struggled with depression for almost 2 decades now, and anxiety showed up in the last few years too. It cost me more than one job and multiple other opportunities over the years. I haven't been on any medication for it for about 10 years now, with the exception of some anxiety meds when that got really bad a few years ago. I had a really bad experience with the last SSRI I was on, and at that point I resolved to tackle it by any other means necessary, unless it got to the point where it was truly unbearable again. I have a few strategies that seem to be effective for me but it's certainly one of those things where the best solution is the one that works for you, and external help isn't always useful.
My partner is also struggling with depression, but his journey has been quite different to mine, and it has been tough to help him despite being able to honestly say "I know what you're going through".
I know I'm a newbie, but I'm happy to offer suggestions or ideas, along with encouragement!