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#631 Maiko

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Posted 23 November 2020 - 08:48 PM

I recently started identifying as nonbinary, but she/her pronouns are still fine for me, they/them as well.

I've also been feeling like I don't belong in the LGBT+ community because I don't feel "gay" enough, I've mostly dated men and the women I've dated were mostly short relationships.

I'm very straight passing, but I actually prefer women; I just happened to find a man that I feel comfortable with but I still identify as bi/pan.

Anyway there's a lot of self loathing.

 

TBH I just want to make out with everybody.


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#632 The Zen Archer

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Posted 23 November 2020 - 08:53 PM

Some of you may enjoy this relevant short film (it's a comedy {but like... it's actually pretty funny [I thought]})

 

this made me so happy. (Also I think I'm in love with Irvine guy)


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#633 The Zen Archer

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Posted 23 November 2020 - 08:57 PM

I recently started identifying as nonbinary, but she/her pronouns are still fine for me, they/them as well.

I've also been feeling like I don't belong in the LGBT+ community because I don't feel "gay" enough, I've mostly dated men and the women I've dated were mostly short relationships.

I'm very straight passing, but I actually prefer women; I just happened to find a man that I feel comfortable with but I still identify as bi/pan.

Anyway there's a lot of self loathing.

 

TBH I just want to make out with everybody.

 

oof, I feel all this. :(


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So you like music?

Name every band ever.


#634 weener

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Posted 23 November 2020 - 10:02 PM

Some of you may enjoy this relevant short film (it's a comedy {but like... it's actually pretty funny [I thought]})

 

That was really cute...I'm sure Matt Porter is a really common name, but any relation?


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#635 Demonstray

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Posted 23 November 2020 - 10:34 PM

I recently started identifying as nonbinary, but she/her pronouns are still fine for me, they/them as well.
I've also been feeling like I don't belong in the LGBT+ community because I don't feel "gay" enough, I've mostly dated men and the women I've dated were mostly short relationships.
I'm very straight passing, but I actually prefer women; I just happened to find a man that I feel comfortable with but I still identify as bi/pan.
Anyway there's a lot of self loathing.

TBH I just want to make out with everybody.


oof, I feel all this. :(

Have either or both of you been affected by bi-exclusionary allies/members of the LGBTQ+ communities (or, I guess, "LGTQ+" minus the "B")? My wife has been basically called out constantly by relatives and friends alike for being bi, lots of them claiming that "bi isn't real" and bullshit like that, and some of them gay or queer themselves. So, exclusionary folks can have a very unwelcoming effect on people, but if the LGBTQ+ folks you are surrounded with are more welcoming, it can be more helpful to identify as part of the community.
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#636 The Zen Archer

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Posted Yesterday, 06:46 AM

Nothing so direct for me, but I did have a lot of trouble fitting into the mainstream gay scene.

At this point I'm not even sure what "The" LGBTQ community is supposed to be. There is certainly a shared subculture in the commodified lifestyle of conspicuous consumption for affluent gay men that I just never fit into, but it's compounded by the fact that I "passed" growing up and never really faced the kind of abuse that would require me to take refuge in a particular community. So I never absorbed the norms of that subculture and when I encountered it later in life (after coming out) it was really alien and discomforting to me.

I think a community built out of necessity, as a safe place for people who really faced (or still face) that kind of abuse, is crucial. But I can also see how it could become insular or toxic for the same reasons. And how it could be suspicious of people who didn't go through the same kind of hardship.

I guess I'm also not thrilled with the idea of a community based solely around gender or sexual orientation, because I believe those things should just be traits like hair or eye color. But I also recognize I'm the odd man out there. I guess it comes from being bi, that I always have an "escape valve" back into """normal""" society :/
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So you like music?

Name every band ever.


#637 Ken Oh

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Posted Yesterday, 09:36 AM

I recently started identifying as nonbinary, but she/her pronouns are still fine for me, they/them as well.

I've also been feeling like I don't belong in the LGBT+ community because I don't feel "gay" enough, I've mostly dated men and the women I've dated were mostly short relationships.

I'm very straight passing, but I actually prefer women; I just happened to find a man that I feel comfortable with but I still identify as bi/pan.

Anyway there's a lot of self loathing.

 

TBH I just want to make out with everybody.

 

I've always wondered what it's like being bi and in a committed relationship, like if you feel like you're constantly missing out on another side of sexuality. But, I guess it might be just like being straight, how I'm missing out on sexual experiences w/ ~2 billion people already. Just pump that number up some. 


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Posted Yesterday, 10:00 AM

I feel so proud of being part of this community.


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#639 The Zen Archer

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Posted Yesterday, 10:18 AM

 

I've always wondered what it's like being bi and in a committed relationship, like if you feel like you're constantly missing out on another side of sexuality. But, I guess it might be just like being straight, how I'm missing out on sexual experiences w/ ~2 billion people already. Just pump that number up some. 

 

 

I did feel that urge in past relationships. I guess we all crave variety sometimes, but part of being an adult is learning to be happy with what you have.


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So you like music?

Name every band ever.


#640 Kevin Gnartinez

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Posted Yesterday, 04:22 PM


I've always wondered what it's like being bi and in a committed relationship, like if you feel like you're constantly missing out on another side of sexuality. But, I guess it might be just like being straight, how I'm missing out on sexual experiences w/ ~2 billion people already. Just pump that number up some.


I did feel that urge in past relationships. I guess we all crave variety sometimes, but part of being an adult is learning to be happy with what you have.
I’m bi and polyamorous but married to a monogamous woman. I’m attracted to other people and I get little innocent crushes sometimes, but we’re open about it, my wife isn’t jealous as long as it never moves past that, and I care more about not hurting her than I do anything else, so it’s not super difficult or anything. Porn helps haha
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