I just noticed this thread and felt the need to add that that was why your mother was freaked about him being a bartender.
Bartenders are surrounded by drunk (and thus very impressionable) young girls every day at work, and many are completely unafraid to hit on him.
Adultery kinda goes with the job description.
There are exceptions, obviously, but that's kinda the trend.
Yes... it would seem that my mother was right on this one... I was trying to give him the benefit of the doubt. I think now i am going to like not really trust anyone until proven otherwise. It used to be the other way around.